i am a man with submissive feelings. i first became aware of this at the age of four or five. Having these feelings is 'deviant' in our society. Whenever you discover a part of your personality that is not accepted by society, you are confronted with a choice. Or you leave that part of your personality 'in the closet' and you accommodate to society. Or you live up to your personality and support the disapproval of society. Until recently i chose to leave my submissive part 'in the closet'. Recently i met the Mistresses of the Academy on the internet, and they changed everything with my slave training.
Maybe one of the reasons why i decided to leave my submissive feelings in the closet, is that i didn't see a clear alternative. Of course, i stumbled on some SM magazines, and i was aroused by the pictures and the stories (always i saw myself as the 'slave', never as the 'master'), and when the internet came i had periods of heavy BDSM-surfing, always searching for 'life style'-sites and avoiding 'commercial' sites. But i was an 'onlooker', not a 'player'. To me, it was like if you wanted to do something with your submissive feelings, you have to engage in some sort of kinky 'scene' where sex seems to be the only human activity of interest. That is not my way, but i saw no other way.
Until i discovered the site academyforslaves.com. For the first time it became clear to me that i could do something with my submissive feelings in the totality of my life. The proposal of the Mistresses of the Academy is very simple: turn your submissive feelings into real submission, start serving your Mistress and serve Her in every aspect of Her Life. Her Life is about sex, but also about enjoying lobster and wine and contributing to the Philosophy of Female Supremacy. Her Life is rich and complete and She is very clear about how you can be a slave to all of Her needs.
i decided to enroll in the Academy For Slaves and took up the 'Obedience Training' at once. i was very happy that the Mistresses didn't ask me to leave my brain on the hook before entering the class room. Immediately i felt that the training was about my whole personality, not just about a 'kinky' part of it. The Mistresses make clear why. All men are inferior to all Women, the only way men can be of any use for Women is by serving them, and to do so a man has to give everything he has, not just a part of him.
For me, the training was very inspiring. By the assignments i felt really invited to 'dig' in my personality. At some moments the training was very emotional for me, and i had heavy reactions in my body. When you send in your assignments, the Mistresses don't delay to send you their comments. You feel how they understand you and you feel their Guidance. Engaging in such a heavy training has a certain kind of danger: it IS life changing. What made me go on, was my great en-growing trust in the Mistresses. They want your submission, but they care for it too.
Before i entered the training i thought i had to 'give up' some parts of my person to become a slave. But i was ready to submit, because i finally wanted to 'do' something with the submissive feelings in my life. One thing i know for sure after the first part of my training is that i haven't given up anything. Something very valuable is added to my personality. i know i have only begun to submit to the Mistresses, but by doing so i added a dimension to my life. Every part of my personality comes in a different perspective, and for my life it is the 'good' perspective. By accepting to be 'less' (an inferior male, a slave) i really have become 'more' (a more complete person with a valuable perspective on his life).
If you give a little (your humble effort in following the trainee slave rules and in working on the assignments) the Mistresses give a lot. She lets you enjoy Her Wisdom. She uses Her Power to guide your life. The Pure Radiation of Her Divinity makes you open for contemplation. Her Intelligence lets you make a clear and easy introduction in the rich philosophy of Female Supremacy. Her Openness lets you share in Her Life as a Mistress. But above all it is Her Warmth and Her Personal Attention that is most helpful for a trainee slave. The Mistresses have many (trainee) slaves to attend to and as Leading Persons in the World of Female Supremacy they have many obligations. Nevertheless in every e-mail of the Mistresses you feel Her Warmth and Her Personal Care.
Of course this Personal Attention is most comfortable for a trainee slave, it is what he is enjoying most in his life. But more important, the Mistresses show the way for a true D/s-relationship. Like all personal relationships it is all about responsibility and mutual care. Of course the responsibility of the slave is to serve his Mistress and to care for all Her needs. (Be sure the Mistresses of the Academy are very clear about this.) But by their care for the trainee slave the Mistresses make the responsibility of the Mistress clear too, not by words but by how they are treating you.
For me the message is clear. If you have submissive feelings and you want to do something with it, you are not condemned to 'kinky' behaviour on a 'kinky' scene. As an inferior male you can take your responsibility by accepting your submission and serving a Mistress in a true and full relationship. Trust your submission to a Superior Female, and She will take responsibility for the Guidance of your life. And She will be taking care for everything a slave needs: a little bit of bread to fast on, a lot of punishment, and a lifetime to serve his Mistress.
Where does that leave me now? i am craving for further submission. i know i have a long way to go yet to be a really good slave. The standards for slavery of the Academy Mistresses are very high and i only hope i shall attain these standards one day. If ever the HeadMistress would accept me as Her slave, that would be the greatest day of my life. For now, i can only be working to progress in submission everyday. By doing further assignments, by learning to accept a Mistress's control over my life, by trying to anticipate Her needs and to please Her, by contemplating the Divinity of the Mistress. Today, i am 'only' a trainee of the Academy for slaves, and i am happy with it because i know it is my way to a more complete life, the life of a slave to a Superior Female.
In everything i do i must be serving My Mistress.
trainee slave s. of the Academy For Slaves